Hi, class of 2004. It has been almost 2 years since this blog space was idle. So I thought suddenly that let me just revive it up. I feel like I am losing contact with the class. I know, if not most, few of you could relate to me. Let me just cut to the point.
There is this peculiar phenomenon that happens right at the end of the college for a few or in a period of 3 years after college for the others. Engagements!. Before you could realize that “May be I should think about marriage now”, all the tadpoles are out of the pond, jumping with their wedding blinders on. Of late I realized that I am stuck between two kinds of friends. One side are the happily-ever-after kinds and the other side are the single-wild-let’s-party like in the 1999 kinds.
Quite recently, on an average every month my inbox spits out 3 invitations of marriage from mates from my school and college. This makes my head go spinning with the questions like “Am I getting older - faster than ever?”, “Am I going to be single forever?”, “What about my plans going round the world in 80 days?”, F***! “Should I too start searching for the better half?”, “Should I ignite the minds of my amma to start the bridal-search?”
While I was entrenched in deep thoughts, ‘ding’ – my facebook chat window opens. It was my best buddy from college. He called me to inform his engagement date. The only surprise from him was that the marriage is arranged by his parents. Inquiring about his decision of his willingness of being pushed to the “paalumkenaru” I was taken back by his reply. “Aama machi, naan than matrimony website la paarthu , amma intha ponnu nalla irukkala – appadinu sonnaen. Avanga ennada na ponna pesi mudichutanga” Oh God! now I understand of enticing the parents.
Without much further ado. Here are some advices for the too-soon-to-be-married. I am unemployed, so the only thing I can offer you is “free-advice”. Advices are not my experiences obviously.
- Manage your expectations – What you want right now will be completely different from what you want after 5 years of marriage.
- With great power comes great responsibility – Instant marriage, instant family atmosphere creates a lot of chaos. Hence there comes instant responsibilities.
- Wedding excitement is exciting, but that’s all about it – It is natural that you get super-excited about the D-day. What in the world could be more fun than trying wedding dresses with your best friend. My view of the wedding fervour is that it might be deceiving, as it is a great distraction for the real focus of the life together henceforth. Be in your sane-self, relish every moment of your time until wedding.
- Feeling left out can be quite aggravating - Your Friends in the wedding might feel lonely and vexed, pressuring them to exert marriage plans on their partners. You will have to make sure that close friends are not left alone while you are busy with your formalities. After all they would be the best man/woman for the wedding.
- Point to be taken – Marriage when coerced upon people never works.
Finally people don’t worry about me. I’m just fine and in fact kicking! I want to experience life to the fullest before any nuptial commitments. It is my choice and I want to make right decision at the right time.
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